The Non-Christmas Family Celebration

Although MomVesting has focused on the holidays in the last few weeks, we do realize that there are many people of differing religions. In fact, I am one of the few. As someone of a differing faith who dislikes commercialization, I know that I’m not alone in my “Bah Humbug” mentality. However, I also realize that I must make it through the holiday season somehow, so I want to share how I skate through the holidays, even with a distinctly pro-Christmas family.

Accept Your Differences

The first thing I have to remember every year when the holiday season rolls around is that the season is more about sharing moments of togetherness with family than anything. It’s not about finding that perfect present. It’s not about forcing everyone to believe. Instead, it’s about harnessing goodwill toward man, particularly if that goodwill is aimed at your family.

That being said, harnessing goodwill can be difficult, especially if your beliefs are so different (and Aunt Beatirce is so adamant). The key to finding bliss in family holidays is compromising. If you don’t like to give or receive gifts, share this sentiment well before your holiday celebration. Oftentimes, you can reach an agreement that acknowledges both of your differences while allowing you all to get together for family togetherness sometime during the season. If religion is the difference, stating your beliefs in a non-threatening way should help pave the way for acceptance.

Move On

Of course, there may not be a way for you to agree to disagree with your family. Sometimes, you might just need to forego the holidays altogether. If you do choose to move on from the traditional timetable of family celebration, simply suggest an alternative time to celebrate the joy of togetherness. Thanksgiving is often a great holiday for simple family joys, without the need for gifts. Other holidays, like New Year’s, Independence Day, Presidents’ Day, Labor Day, etc. could be the perfect option for you and your family to get together to celebrate one another without added pressure.

As for me, my family and I have accepted our differences. We can celebrate our joy in life on a day that happens to be steeped in Christian belief, without expensive presents. We have set limits for present-giving this year, and although I’m not a believer in extreme gift giving, I can tolerate small presents for the pleasure of others. And they can tolerate my religious beliefs.

So I bid you all a “Merry Christmas,” a “Happy Holidays,” a “Happy Hanukkah” and a “Peace Be with You in the New Year”; I wish you all the best in your holiday celebrations and in the coming year!

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